Erica Longdon on The Night Shift

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Erica Longdon had a long career as a broadcaster in British tv and radio(30 years). Following her guidance she gave it all up to work as a healer (massage, reiki, ear candling, and lately sound healing) locally in Kent, England. After training with Doreen Virtue in 2009, she began work as a psychic advisor and the angels have looked after her ever since.
Erica is the author of the novel In Pursuit of Perfect Timing and is now working on her non-fiction book on sound healing, Sonic Vitamins For Sound Health.
A strong advocator of meditation, she found herself in a tent in a field at a yoga festival in 2012 and met a man that was life changing for her Yogi Ashokanda. Erica learned more from him in 30 minutes than she had from numerous books. She has wanted to study with him ever since. However, his ashram is in India, and that combined with time issues she could not make it happen. She is thrilled though that she was just accepted in his course in London beginning 9/16 and will become a fully qualified and insured meditation teacher upon completion.
An avid traveler, I have had the pleasure of hearing Erica play the drone flute in Tintagel Cave in Cornwall on a recent visit.
She shares all this with us plus much more! Tune in to The Night Shift, 7:00 PM Eastern Time on Tuesday, September 27th.

 

 

DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE USING C~U~R~B~APPEAL

We all have challenging people in our lives yet unfortunately few of us have been properly trained in how to effectively deal with them. Well, that’s going to change today. In no particular order, using the an acronym “C~U~R~B Appeal”, you will learn tips that will better enable you to get along with difficult people.

C: Consequences Very often when we are dealing with challenging individuals we fail to set limits and boundaries. We may be comfortable speaking up and addressing their inappropriate behaviors or attitudes. Additionally we might also comment on how we expect them to behave. However, that’s typically as far as we get. Without motivation to change (which can either be a reward or a penalty) people are often inclined to continue doing what they’re doing without regard for the feelings or impact it has on others. Much like our speed limits, if police officers only expressed a desire that we obey them rather than exceed those limits, few would comply. Imposing a ticket or points on the offender’s license gives one ample reason to make the necessary changes. The key to effective consequences is following through with them.

U: Understanding It’s essential to realize that behavior is an outward expression of our internal issues. Those who are arrogant, vengeful, rude, combative, uncooperative, etc. are verbally or physically expressing what is bothering them inside, those issues that they have not yet resolved or healed. Individuals are not always aware of why they act as they do and are therefore powerless to some extent to change. Even though I may be understanding that one who is yelling and threatening me is operating from a place of fear (aggression is a need to self-protect from a perceived threat), I may not necessarily know the source of that fear and neither is it necessary. I only need to be understanding of their suffering and therefore compassionate that they are struggling with an unresolved issue.

R: Respect Regardless of how difficult the individual may be, it is imperative to always treat them with dignity and respect. This can be extremely challenging as it is our natural inclination to want to put others in their place when they are acting out or to get even with those who have offended us. We also tend to assign value to people based, in part, on how they treat others. Those who are disrespectful or offensive have lower worth to us than those who treat one another with dignity. However, it is not our place to judge; neither do people have to earn our esteem. Respect is defined as “to value” and the one who assigns importance to all humanity is the One who created it. All human life has equal value. Respect is a God-given birthright. To offer it is a Divine responsibility. Additionally being courteous shows the other party how to be polite as well and hopefully they will follow your example.

B: Boundaries Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors.” In every relationship it is important to establish rules and regulations defining what is acceptable treatment and what is not. Too often, we are fearful of speaking up when someone mistreats us or treats us in a way that we find offensive or uncomfortable. “People should know how to treat one another,” we proclaim. However, respectable treatment is different for each person. What one is fine with another may find appalling. Each person must be crystal clear in their own minds how they want to be treated – what is and is not permissible – and then clearly convey that to the other party. Without verbally expressing our desires, we cannot expect that every person will treat us in a way that we find acceptable. Ideally, having boundaries in place precedes consequences. Once they are made known, one can follow up by also expressing the consequences they are prepared to enforce should the other person disregard their request.

A: Appeal Appealing to what matters to the other person , to what is important to them, is a powerful tool in gaining their cooperation. What strikes a chord within is more likely to result in an affirmative response than that which they cannot relate to. For example, one can appeal to their sense of moral values making a statement such as, “I know that it matters to you to always do what is right and fair.” Pointing to issues of right and wrong, or to what is in their best interest can also enable them to adjust their attitudes or behaviors. “Do you think that your choice is ultimately going to be good for you? I’m concerned that it may not be and you certainly deserve to be safe/happy/healthy, etc.” “How is this behavior/attitude going to benefit you?” is another powerful question that challenges the other person to reconsider their actions. “What is the more responsible thing to do? Is this a fair decision for everyone? Are you being a good role model for your children?” are all thought-provoking questions. Reach out and touch their “heart interests”, what matters most to them. Share your concern for their well-being and in doing so you may very well gain their trust and cooperation.

In dealing with those who require greater effort on our parts, it is imperative that we remove our own ego and operate from a place of spirit – kindness, concern, and equality. Remind yourself that everyone is struggling with their own unique pain and fear. It is not your place to put them in their place but rather to uplift them and assist them in creating the best scenario possible at that moment. With a little concern, a reasonable amount of patience, and the C~U~R~B Appeal Method, you’ll increase your ability to better interact with those who are typically uncooperative with others.

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WomanUp Conference Buffalo, NY

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Buffalo, are you ready to Woman Up?
This week on The Night Shift with Susan Dintino, Tuesday, 9/20 7:00 PM Eastern time  we will hear about this amazing conference and all the ways my special guest Joan Graci is working towards women of all ages finding passion and power in the workplace. Ms. Graci is the President of  APA Solutions, the presenting sponsor of WomanUp, and explains why she is dedicated to bringing this event to Western New York on Tuesday, September 27, at the Buffalo Transportation Pierce-Arrow Museum. WomanUp will feature a live interview with one of WNY’s most successful and impactful woman, Kim Pegula.
Woman Up focuses on educating and motivating women, working and nonworking, of all generations. Our conference is inclusive of all women that are interested in universal insights that empower in the areas of professional development, business relationships, and health and wellness.
“Western New York has some of the most prominent women and organizations, but the reality is we don’t have an event in the area that brings all women’s initiatives together under one roof. With the overarching goal of empowerment, we look to unite, share best practices, develop skills, and Woman Up.” – Joan Graci
I am proud to say I will be taking part in this event teaching a workshop on Reducing Stress Through Meditation

Ms. Graci will also talk about her non profit organization Be Your Own Hero which helps students decide what the best career path may be for them. A career coach with a zest for everything she does, Ms. Graci will have tips that will assist you in your job journey. If you have wondered about changing careers, finding a job full of purpose that makes you literally want to jump out of bed and go to work tune in!


To Register for WomanUP: http://womanupconferences.com/register/
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